Myth #2: We’re gonna be in love forever!
I call it the fairy tale
stage. I also call it infatuation. It’s totally there, you will always love
each other, but will you always be in
love with each other?
Maybe for some couples yes,
but for other couples, myself included, I love my husband in a completely
different way than I did during that fairy tale stage, and I love him more now
than I did then. After 10 years together I have seen him in an entirely
different way than when we first began dating. I love his quarks and I love
knowing what can make or break him as a person; that is such a privilege that
only I have attained. Being together for so long, we have grown to know each
other in ways that other people will never know.
There is something so much more
intimate and personal about this confidential knowledge than the fairy tale of
infatuation that nothing on earth can compare to. When you first begin dating,
the unknown about each other is intense and full of anticipation and
excitement. And then, through the early years of marriage, you come these prior
mysteries about your spouse become the daily rewards and quirks of married life.
You have studied them and can actually anticipate their needs, sometimes even
before they can.
A love that has been
enriched by joys and sorrows; by the experiences of shared sufferings and loss—as
well as disappointments. This is a completely different love that is only
generated by years together.
Love,
