Monday, October 3, 2011

The Morning After // Marriage

Last night Andrew taught on Marriage Myths. Things we hear about marriage that just are not true. His wife did a blog series for me a couple months ago on these myths. Read them here if you're interested. {Marriage Myths Series

Quotes from the night:
"Marriage is meant to be a mirror of Gods love For His people."

"Marriage is not the solution to our discontentment. It will not fulfill you the way you think it will." [Reference Phil 4]

"The most powerful marriage is when two independently powerful [powerful in the sense of God-seeking] people get married. Together they more powerful in God's kingdom than they are apart from one another."

"We can show people a tangible version of Gods love IN our marriages. But you can also do that in other relationships too!" 

4 Marriage myths:
1. For if for your happiness.
No, it's not. Rather it's for our holiness. Revival & restoration rests on humility both in marriage and in the Church. If you wanna be free to serve Jesus: stay single . If you wanna become more like Jesus: get married.
James 4:6But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: "God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.
1 Peter 5:5In the same way, you who are younger, submit yourselves to your elders. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, "God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.
John 4:24- Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. 

2. We need to keep our spouses humble.   
We are not called to humble anyone. Our job is to encourage + bless other people. We think by withholding encouragement, because of someone's pride, we are helping them. But more times than not, they r bragging because they lack encouragement. 
Eph 4:29- Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Hebrews 3:13- But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called "Today," so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness.

3. You will always be in love.
As love matures, mystery lessens. And that's ok. Dating is based on a love that is teased by mystery. As ur love grows, it's tempered by time. Christ looks at us, knowing full well the deepest darkness of our hearts, and commits to love us thru. Marriage should mirror that.
Ephesians 5:21-33- Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her...This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
1 John 4:19- We love because he first loved us.

4. People don't change.
The danger of this myth is that people do change. They change as time and life seasons. Loving ur spouse thru their change (for better or worse) will look differently but is imperative to ur marriage.
Colossians 3:12-14Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

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