The Morning After // Marriage

Last night Andrew taught on Marriage Myths. Things we hear about marriage that just are not true. His wife did a blog series for me a couple months ago on these myths. Read them here if you're interested. {Marriage Myths Series} 





Quotes from the night:
"Marriage is meant to be a mirror of Gods love For His people."


"Marriage is not the solution to our discontentment. It will not fulfill you the way you think it will." [Reference Phil 4]

"The most powerful marriage is when two independently powerful [powerful in the sense of God-seeking] people get married. Together they more powerful in God's kingdom than they are apart from one another."

"We can show people a tangible version of Gods love IN our marriages. But you can also do that in other relationships too!" 

4 Marriage myths:
1. For if for your happiness.
No, it's not. Rather it's for our holiness. Revival & restoration rests on humility both in marriage and in the Church. If you wanna be free to serve Jesus: stay single . If you wanna become more like Jesus: get married.
James 4:6- But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: "God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.
1 Peter 5:5- In the same way, you who are younger, submit yourselves to your elders. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, "God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.
John 4:24- Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. 

2. We need to keep our spouses humble.   
We are not called to humble anyone. Our job is to encourage + bless other people. We think by withholding encouragement, because of someone's pride, we are helping them. But more times than not, they r bragging because they lack encouragement. 
Eph 4:29- Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Hebrews 3:13- But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called "Today," so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness.

3. You will always be in love.
As love matures, mystery lessens. And that's ok. Dating is based on a love that is teased by mystery. As ur love grows, it's tempered by time. Christ looks at us, knowing full well the deepest darkness of our hearts, and commits to love us thru. Marriage should mirror that.
Ephesians 5:21-33- Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her...This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
1 John 4:19- We love because he first loved us.

4. People don't change.
The danger of this myth is that people do change. They change as time and life seasons. Loving ur spouse thru their change (for better or worse) will look differently but is imperative to ur marriage.
Colossians 3:12-14- Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

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See you at next week's Forum: Live Q & A about all things Single, Dating, and Marriage related. 


Happy Monday! Smile @ someone today. 


Love,

The Morning After // Dating Dilemmas

*Disclaimers: 1) This series is in response to our Sunday Night service series on relationships. 2) This video is a little longer than usual. 3) Tyson makes zero facial expressions when he's not talking. :)

1. How to Choose the Right Person.
    -2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For awhat partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 
    [What to seek in a women] 
    -Proverbs 31:10-31 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life...[Read more]
    -1 Peter 3:3-5 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.
 [What to seek in a men]

   -Ephesians 5:25-33 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water jwith the word,  so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, lwithout spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. [He is the pastor of your home.]


2. How Far is Too Far.
    -Ephesians 5:1-21 But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints...Walk as children of light (for the fruit of light is found in all that is good and right and true), and try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord...Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise [Read more]


3. How Do I Know He/She is the "One"?
    -Romans 8:1-11 ...but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on tthe things of the Spirit. For to set uthe mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace...[read more] 
    -Romans 8:26-27 Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit fintercedes for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. For those whom he jforeknew he also kpredestined lto be conformed to the image of his Son...

On Singleness // The Morning After

Quotes of Note:
"I don't want to help you cope with being single, I want you to thrive in this season and be equipped and sent out to do things are just not possible in a marriage."


"Don't be so consumed with future plans that you miss what God wants to do right now." 


"God is the God of now." 


Scripture references from the message.
1. God's Love
Psalm 32:10  "the LORD’s unfailing love surrounds the one who trusts in him."
Psalm 139:13-18 "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts,^[a] God! How vast is the sum of them! Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand—when I awake, I am still with you."


2. God's Sovereignty
Psalm 84:11 For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD bestows favor and honor; no good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless.
Isaiah 55:8-9  For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.


3. God's Wisdom
1 Corinthians 7:6-7 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
1 Corinthians 7:32-35 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.


Every Monday we be here friends. Next week is DATING. 


Love,

The Morning After // A Relationship Series

So, I meant to do this in video form, and I might post one tomorrow morning, but I got back from a couples retreat just now and don't look video ready so I'm just gonna have to type it out. :) Oh vanity.
Ok, so this series I am so excited for! Antioch Temecula just finished the God Delusion and have begun the relationship series titled, Status [a play on Facebook]. Each week of the series we will tackle the different relationship statuses. 

Since I love talking about relationships, I thought it would be fun to do a follow-up on Monday mornings to whatever the topic was the night before. Hence the title, The Morning After. 

I am also gonna have guest posts by different perspectives of the night. 


So tomorrow, tune in for my first response post on tonight's topic: Singleness. 


Happy Sunday! Take a nap for me.


Love,

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