Showing posts with label Speaking. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Speaking. Show all posts

Friday, April 19, 2013

How I Prep for a Speaking Engagement | Women's Retreats




I love speaking to a room full of women. Throw men in there and I freeze up like your tongue on a frozen swing set. (You know the one I'm talking about.) It's not them necessarily that intimidates me, but it's that I feel more free speaking to women because there are no reserves. You can recall the weird details about any situation and they all chuckle and shake their heads because they know! It's a sweet camaraderie.

A room full of women who are there to learn and hear and experience God contains to potential for something magical to happen.

The days and weeks leading up to an event, I try to do a variety of things to prepare.


  • PRAY - super spiritual right?

This one isn't a ritual and I don't do it because I have to, but rather because I have to! These moments of prayer aren't a focus time or even a meditation time for me and God. They are a begging, pleading and frantic one sided counseling session. Minus the leather couch.

When speaking to women strangers, the need to hear from God is of utmost importance to me because I don't know them like He does. In fact, I don't know most of them at all. But He sees their lives right now, He knows their needs right now, and He knows what He's fashioning in them, right now. I don't want to derail or weaken that.

I want to enforce it. So I pray.


  • OBSERVE - the circumstances of my own life.

I made a pact with God when I first began speaking publicly, that He could prepare me for upcoming events by giving me illustrations and teaching moments within my own life. Dangerous, but effective.

So the weeks leading up to an event, I journal and take mental notes of everything going on. What am I feeling? What arguments are Ty and I picking? Is disaster striking at an opportune time? (This may or may not be a ploy to keep buying these journals.)


Sometimes it means nothing. But occasionally, when it does, it's more powerful than any story I could have just imagined up.


  • READ - the theme verse, passage, or story.

Some retreat or conferences will give their speakers a theme to base talks off of. Some are vague and open-ended and other are more specific. Either way, I like to read it over and over and over and over and over again to get the Scripture so engrained in my brain and heart. I try to read it in different versions and write post-its for my purse, wallet and car to remind me to have it on the forefront of my mind.


  • STUDY - with Bible, commentaries, internet and notebook in hand. 

Everyone has their own study methods that work best for them, so I won't go into detail on what mine are. But the basics are to figure out what message (topic sentence) I want them to get by the end of my ramblings. I start from the end and work my way back to the beginning.

Thanks to Ty and Andrew (my pastor), I have bookshelves of commentaries and author insights into the various passages I'm studying.

*SideNote: If you have someone in your life whose expertise is Biblical Studies, use them! They are willing, able, and honored to help you. Seriously. 


  • RECORD - intros and outros.

This coming event will be my first time trying this. I voice recorded my intros for the purpose of not getting sidetracked. I know how long it's going to take to get from introductions to the text and again from the text to the end of the message. I'm hoping it keeps everything nice and packaged, minimizing the rabbit trails we all know are going to happen. We'll see if it worked.


  • REVIEW - to affirm what counts and discard what doesn't. 

I try to be done studying, researching, and writing within 7 days of an event so I have time to work through delivery and take out any nonsense I wrote while eating my medium cheese pizza. It happens. It's the clean up process.


  • THANK YOU NOTES - for the people in my life who taught me to love God.

This time, it was for my Momma. She taught me to love God and teach people about Him. Thanks Momma!

As a result of these basic steps, my organization and prep time has been more effective and the outcome more free to be powerful.


Do you have tricks or tips you use to prepare for a speaking engagement? 


"In preparing for battle I have always found that plans are useless, but planning is indispensable." --Dwight D. Eisenhower  

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Rancho Community Women's Retreat 2011

{Photo from Jeanne Oliver}
Last weekend I spoke and sang at a women's retreat put on by my home church. There was alot of baggage and discouragement leading up to it [if you remember my Letter to Satan you know what I'm talking about] but once I got there, set up and took a jump in the pool, there was an wave of peace that began to settle in. It was going to be ok. Everything was going to work out.


Well...


Everything MORE than worked out. Here are some highlights:


-An All Girl Band: My band was made up of an amazing group of girls and we pretty much killed it. Below is a video of us rehearsing Nothing But the Blood for Bluegrass Saturday. 

- Being with my mom and sister: I love my family so much. Something happens when your family grows up and all the kids get married. The relationship changes, mostly good, but I cherish more the moments we take a couple hours out of our day to be with each other. Lucky for me it was a whole weekend. 

- Sharing Our News with Everyone!: No, we're not preggo. Well, kind of ;) We're looking into adoption! The last couple of weeks leading up to the women's retreat were challenging, but now I know why. God was preparing my heart and giving me a new story to tell @ my Sunday speaking session. That story is one of adoption. Ty and I have felt that God is calling us to adopt a baby before we have our own. It will be a long journey, but we trust that since He put it in our hearts, He will make a way clear. Yay! 

- The Sunshine & Pool-time: For this girl, nothing beats laying in the sun and chit-chatting with friends. We stayed at La Quinta resort in Palm Springs. This place is G-o-r-g-e-o-u-s. The rooms are comfy and homy, there is a pool in the center of ever 8 rooms, the grounds are impeccably kept and blooming right now, and the service is quite hospitable. Sum up: very very good. 

- Seeing lives change right before my eyes: From Saturday morning to Sunday afternoon, I saw women change. I saw their thinking expand, their lives begin to heal, and their hearts melt for the things of God. We are still hearing story after story of women who left knowing, hearing, and becoming a different person because they encountered God. Makes my job SO utterly and completely worth it. 

All to say, it was a good weekend. Can't wait for the couple retreat in September. Ty & I get to lead that one together. Woot woot.

Here are some pictures for your seeing pleasure: 
//Pictures taken by Emily @ Oopsie Daisie Photography//


Happy Tuesday! Eat some tacos. Everybody's doing it. 

Love,

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